I am in process of considering, ruminating, editing, accepting/rejecting, re-accepting/re-rejecting, thinking about, thinking about the opposite about, and weighing these and other thoughts – collected here, in this mess!
“Judgement is self-abandonment,” (G. Doyle, Untamed).
Regarding a dysfunctional relationship, “there is no protection for what happens when we stand before God and are honest about the things in our life that are dysfunctional and hurt other people. There is only vulnerability. You are going to have to be willing, today, to stand in front of the mirror and ask yourself, “what part of the dysfunctional relationship do you play, do you hold, and what are you supposed to do about it?” (D. Clinton, 10/9/2022, Forts Sermon Series. Reflecting on the rich young ruler.
Mark is the only record of the three gospels recording this event, Mark is the only noting, “…and Jesus, looking at him, loved him, and said……..” ESV.
As to Danny’s comment opening, “…there is no protection…” this would refer to the space in front of the mirror – there is simply no place for pretense, games, positioning, “self-protecting” which really masks offensive maneuvers to avoid….rather, if one will look, one will see the loving eyes of Jesus – these are the eyes Danny calls us to in our relationships with others as we, like Jesus, say to others and to ourselves, “I simply don’t choose the choices you are putting in front of me; I want more and better for us.” (D. Clinton, 10/9/2022, Forts Sermon Series).
This would be why Jesus’ response may seem a bit sassy (Mark 10: 19 and 10: 21).
“you know the commandments……..
[then, after looking at the rich young ruler with love],
“one thing you lack….”
Thus, Jesus will not have the positioning of FDR of his persona and his actual body on the hospital bed when initially wracked with polio (see Still Creek reflections on Michaelis, D., 2021, Eleanor).
The mirror, to which Danny calls us, is set within the description of our posture to others and to God described by James:
In the case, the more/better/longer/truer that we look in the mirror, yes at ourselves, inversely, yes, we will be the better for others for being that much truer and in-step with God for us and for those with whom we are in relationship – be that service (James 1:26-27) and those we are in life with.